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Love Lesson #1
Many couples in love make this mistake- defining commitment according to the level of happiness that exists in the relationship. Commitment is a decision, not a feeling. It may be fed by emotions of love and desire, but it is anchored in place by choice and moral integrity. Emotions shift. Commitment must be sturdier. It is not difficult to commit to someone you love. It is harder but critically important to remain committed when adversity strikes or passion withers. Otherwise, you are not devoted to the other person. You are only devoted to the feeling of being in love.
Every couple needs a certain amount of closeness and a certain amount of separateness. But when u are not fully committed, you will never fully give yourself to the relationship. Since committment is ultimately a decision, you must first commit yourself to choosing. You must choose to do the kinds of things that people in truly committed r/ps do. A moral-based commitment is a commitment to the marriage vows and to your partner's human dignity and spiritual growth. It means a willingness to remain devoted to the othe rperson despite hardship, fluctuations in passion etc. The feelings of being in love shifts. We must be stronger than our feelings.
Love Lesson #2
Your r/p is like a boat on the ocean seeking the shore. It needs a direction and an ultimate destination, otherwise it is lost. One reason why r/ps aren't satisfying is that the goals pple set are often based on self-gratification instead of soul-gratification.Pple crave the sweets of life (success, money, sex) and a short time later they want more. Part of the problem is that pple act in ways that diminish, rather than inspire, hope.
Some pple seek vainly to find lasting happiness through pleasure and miss out on discovering joy. Happiness is fleeting and subject to the whims of an arbitrary world. Joy goes deeper. It is a by-product of having a meaningful life. Joyous pple are able to see beyond the day-to-day frustrations and discover that their life is rich in meaning and purpose, regardless of adversity.
Too many r/p lack purpose and therefore are either dead or dying. The couples simply go along day after day without a sense that their life tog has any real meaning. In contrast, hopeful pple persevere in their efforts to make their r/ps wonderful and fulfilling. Hope is a yearning for good to happen, combined with a belief that it can happen.